My story
Lorenz Boerger (M.Sc. Psych.)
I help men out of depression to fulfillment. To begin with, many of my clients live somewhat draining, burdensome lives full of duty and with little vitality. They spend much of their free time distracting themselves from this unsatisfactory state. Their lives are often devoid of direction and meaning, dominated by the requirements placed upon them by others and day-to-day events.
Through the Revealing Method, my clients learn to transform their emotions. They find more and more courage, clarity and serenity within themselves sustainably. From this higher emotional state my clients typically find their calling, live fulfilling relationships and achieve their goals.
My life
What led me to the revealing method
How everything started
My journey began with an expulsion from paradise. I spent a happy and privileged childhood in Manila, Philippines. I lived with my parents in a villa under palm trees, had a driver I could call upon any time, and a lively circle of friends. One day, however, my mother, a diplomat, announced that we had to move. To Moscow, into the bitterly cold Russian winter.
Ice age
In gloomy Moscow, my classmates treated me with contempt; I didn't know the social rules there. At that time my relationship with my parents was distanced, I felt alone with this situation. I armored myself in a heavy, numb state and somehow went through the daily misery. My refuge was playing computer games after school. Without realizing it, I was depressed.
College
Finally, I arrived at the situation that I hoped would change everything: college. Studying in Saarbrücken was very easy for me intellectually, I enjoyed a lot of external freedom. But, without admitting it to myself, I was empty and hollow inside. Nothing really brought me joy. I dulled my pain with alcohol in the evenings. When I finally suffered an accident with a trampoline and also developed chronic physical pain, the dam broke inside me: I could no longer go on like this. I was constantly tense and driven or sullen and withdrawn. My first romantic relationship was dependent and lifeless. I needed help.
Psycho-therapy?
I travelled almost all over Germany to find help. I went to a psychiatrist who prescribed me medication. Two depth psychologists uncovered external and internal conflicts. A behavioral therapist wrote me an action plan, discussed with me the truth or falsity of my negative thoughts. Group therapy showed me how I kept others at a distance. Body therapists went worked on my body, released blockages, tensions, channeled energy flows, straightened my spine. But nothing helped! I was desperate and at a loss. I was still a mental and physical wreck. The irony in all of this was that I was working very successfully as a therapist. With clients, I could get into a creative, experimental state in which I helped them in unconventional ways. At that time, I experienced work as an imposition, as slavery, made work partly responsible for my suffering. It took an incredible amount of strength to function depressively from Monday to Friday. There had to be a radical liberation.
Seeking Buddha
I left my girlfriend, quit my job and, to the horror of my parents, moved to a Buddhist center. In the Buddhist lineage there were teachers who had clearly achieved a state of mind like I wanted: free and unshakable, spontaneous and effortless, dynamic and powerful, light and compassionate. I got by as a gardener and landscaper, having renounced my profession, distracted myself with various affairs, devoted myself mainly to meditation and center work. I spent around 20.000 hours practicing meditation.
As great as my will was and as little as I wanted to admit it, it did not help. I was a hopeless case. I had failed.
Surrender
One day I just couldn't manage to get up. My limbs were nailed down. I heard an inner voice say, "OK. Yes, I am depressed. Yes, none of this is helping. I may never be able to work again. I may stay depressed all my life. There may never be a fulfilling relationship in my life. I've been fighting it for ten years, trying to work it out. Can't I accept it for what it is?" And for the first time in a very long time, I relaxed. Images from the past came up, I cried.
Revealing
Once again, I was forced to restart my life. I moved to a remote location on the outskirts of Berlin where I knew nobody, doing little else than opening up to my emotions on my balcony, in the forest, in the water, experienced that everything I allowed was released from the body. I experienced that negative emotions are nothing more than pent-up energy in the body. At times, I felt light and free as never before. But this inner cleansing seemed endless. There was no system guiding it.
During this time I met Markus, who had the answer to my questions: the Revealing Method. The principles were brilliant, simple and ingenious. I had found my way. I devoted myself completely to the study and practice of Revealing, immediately flew to the USA to attend workshops with my teacher.
Now I had a polar star by which I could navigate any situation. I gradually released my emotional blocks more specifically, systematically cleansed memories of negative emotional states, learned to flow through all emotions, developed goals and raised them to the level of the upper emotions as well.
Flourishing
The higher my emotional level, the more freedom I enjoyed inside and outside. I could fall back more and more on happiness where it is experienced: in my own mind. I was now no longer a depressive patient being treated and trying to fix myself. Instead, I saw myself as imperfect in my own way and growing steadily, fulfilled and confident, connected to my body. Of course, there were (and still are for that matter) difficult periods and low points. But I knew by now that I could master them all step by step. I was self-sufficient. My life gradually began to change on its own: I met a woman, as I had explicitly imagined her, with whom I am still extremely happy today. A circle of friends developed, my financial situation developed positively. I invested the money mainly in workshops with my teacher in the USA. The relationship with my parents became more honest and unforced.
Begin again
Increasingly, I began to focus exclusively on Revealing in the therapies I conducted, passing it on to my clients more and more systematically and deeply. It was clearly my calling. Above all, more and more men came to me who desired liberation. Even if it went against the will of orthodox colleagues and supervisors: it was compelling for me to pass on what finally redeemed me, even if it might cost me my job. The success proved me right: my clients tackled things they had avoided, found new fulfillment in their relationships, jobs and daily lives, knew what they wanted and moved inexorably toward it.
I had regained some of the innocence and spontaneity that I had in the Philippines. True, I no longer had a driver or a maid, and I no longer lived under palm trees. But life was again rich with possibilities. Meanwhile, I am at peace with my past. I would otherwise simply never have gained the ability to help others with similar difficulties.
Professional experience
Work experience and formal qualifications
Qualifications
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What clients are saying
Medical Doctor
"Lorenz is authentic, confident in his work and disruptive. He gave me many deep and surprising insights, including into the relationship with my girlfriend."
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Thomas Frey
Heilpraktiker
"I liked Lorenz from the very first appointment on due to his refreshing honesty and openness."
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